Gender Identity Resources in the UK

This is a list of resources that are available to those who live in the United Kingdom (composed of England, Wales, Northern Ireland and Scotland and go through The Nation Health Service [a.k.a. NHS]) Huge thanks to my friend Ciara Marshall for this list, couldn’t have done it without them. πŸ™‚

NOTE: If there are any inaccuracies or know something that should be added to this list, don’t hesitate to let me know!

General Resources and Support

Name Website Comments
Gender Identity Research & Education Society http://www.gires.org.uk Uses research and individual experiences to help educate others.
Sparkle https://www.sparkle.org.uk/ Actively promotes fundraising and transgender awareness.
Trans Media Watch http://www.transmediawatch.org/ Aims to improve media representation and coverage.
Gendered Intelligence http://genderedintelligence.co.uk/ Develops youth programs, workshops and offers sensitivity training.
Mind (Mental Health Charity) https://www.mind.org.uk/ Provides a huge range of mental health resources.
Unity Group Wales https://www.unitygroup.wales/ Offers a wide range of support services for transgender folks.
Scotting Trans http://www.scottishtrans.org/support/support-groups-in-scotland/ Promotes and strives to improve transgender rights and inclusion in Scotland.
Umbrella Cymru https://www.umbrellacymru.co.uk/ Offers a wide range of gender identity resources in Wales.

Health Resources

Name Website Comments
National Health Service (NHS) http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Gender-dysphoria/Pages/Treatment.aspx Official site of the National Health Service.
National Health Service (NHS) http://www.teni.ie/attachments/9ea50d6e-1148-4c26-be0d-9def980047db.PDF Official site of the National Health Service.
National Health Service (NHS) https://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Transhealth/Documents/LivingMyLife.pdf Official site of the National Health Service.
Gender GP (Dr Helen Webberly) https://gendergp.co.uk/ A gender specialist and her team that offers a wide range of medical services for transgender people.

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Binders and Free Binder Programs

The following table is a list of brands that offer binders for the transgender and gender nonconforming community. A binder is an undergarment that is used for the sole purpose of safely compressing your chest.

NOTE: If there are any inaccuracies or any websites that I may have missed, please let me know! πŸ˜€

Name Website Price Range
Underworks http://www.underworks.com/ $28 – $35
Gc2b https://www.gc2b.co/ $33 – $36
FLAVNT Streetwear http://www.flavnt.com/ $50
T Kingdom http://www.t-kingdom.com/ $43 – $75
Shapeshifters http://www.shapeshifters.co/ $40 – $100

CAN’T AFFORD A BINDER? These are the following places that offer free binders to those who can’t afford or otherwise cannot receive a binder for any reason.

Name Website Comments
Point of Pride https://pointofpride.org/chest-binder-donations/ Long waiting time.
In A Bind http://www.transactiveonline.org/inabind/get.php Only for ages 18 and under.
Trans Alike http://www.transalike.com/connectwithme/ This person receives many donations; use the contact form. They also do a monthly binder giveaway.
Chase Ross Monthly Binder Giveaway http://www.uppercasechase.com/binders.html Random chance; binder not guaranteed.
Free Youth Binder Program https://www.ftmessentials.com/pages/ftme-free-youth-binder-program Only for those 24 years and under.
Big Brother Binder Program http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/BBUB.html Will not ship to anyone under 18 years old without parental consent.

Ask Gabriel: Surgery and Labeling Yourself

Ask Gabriel: Surgery and Labeling Yourself

Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.

Hi Gabriel,

I’m 15 years old and I have been seeing my gender therapist for around eight months now (I have been out as FTM for around a year and a half now) and she refuses to let me begin my transition in fear that I’ll grow out of it. (By that, I mean she won’t let me begin testosterone). I am pre-everything and the way I look is starting make me pass less and less. I can’t change therapists because she’s the only one near me! (I live in a very conservative area) Any advice would be greatly appreciated! – Sebastian

Have you asked them what specifically makes them feel you will grow out of this? It might have been certain things you have disclosed to this therapist, which led them to believe that waiting would be best for the moment Also, you will more than likely need parental permission to go on testosterone (as you are underage) so that is most likely the reason than anything else. But this is just guesswork so please ask your therapist at your next session and then, depending on what they say, make a case for yourself that it is not temporary. Good luck! Continue reading “Ask Gabriel: Surgery and Labeling Yourself”

Ask Gabriel: Parents and Testosterone

Ask Gabriel: Parents and Testosterone

Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.

Hi Gabriel,

I came out socially as a binary transgender man about a year ago, with my name changed and everything. But because I’m in the UK and/or trying to move out, I am unable to start my medical transition for a number of years (probably 3-5). I’m 21 and it’s killing me that I don’t pass and I really don’t know what to do. I feel so desperate and isolated because you have to wait so long to see a gender specialist here. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. – Scott

There’s many things you can do while waiting for testosterone. You can try and practice making your voice lower, which might help you pass better. And seeing as how you don’t have anyone to talk to about this, I would highly suggest going to nearby transgender support groups so you can build connections and possibly make new friends. Who knows, you might meet someone else who is in the exact same position that you are in! Never underestimate the power of community, friend. πŸ™‚

If attending real life support groups might be too much for you, you can also join my Facebook group. While the group is largely US-based, we do have people here from the UK! Continue reading “Ask Gabriel: Parents and Testosterone”

Ask Gabriel: Choosing Names and Binders

Ask Gabriel: Choosing Names and Binders

Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.

Hi Gabriel,

I’ve been wearing a binding since I was 17. I’m 28 now and it worries me to wear long-term. Any suggestions or sites that sell bindings for a decent price ? I’ve thought about top surgery as well, but nothing beyond that. Any insight works. – Anonymous

It would depend on what you mean by decent price. Budget friendly? I would recommend either GC2b or Underworks for a binder. I personally used GC2b as their binders are more comfortable but I find that Underworks is better for those with bigger chests.

Hi Gabriel,

I identify as nonbinary. I go to a university and I want to start an educational project for people to understand nonbinary folx. I also want to start a group for nonbinary students on campus. I’m not too sure on how to go about doing so however. Can you please give me some tips on how I can carry out those projects/ what I should do? I would appreciate this so much!! – Skyler

To start a support group, you’ll need to go through the proper channels at your university. You need to propose a group, explain why this group should be formed and do all the necessary paperwork. I would go to the student government (if applicable) and ask about the process of forming groups/clubs. Continue reading “Ask Gabriel: Choosing Names and Binders”

Ask Gabriel: Haircuts and Identities

Ask Gabriel: Haircuts and Identities

Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.

Hi Gabriel,

So I’ve known for almost 3 years now that I’m a Trans guy. I go to high school and live with my parents still. I came out to my parents a year ago and my mom doesn’t think I’m a guy. My hair is a big problem to me. I can’t get my mom to cut it. If I snip a little off, she’ll punish me. If I ask my dad to take me to go get it cut, she’ll punish me. If I ask her politely, she’ll tell me to shut up and go away. Because of the length of my hair and femininity of my face, people call me a girl and it makes me want to curl up in a corner and cry. She cut it super short one time and I was never called a girl, only a boy, which made her insanely upset. I asked her if she can cut it like that again and she said she never will. I don’t know what to do and it’s causing me to go into a depression. I have no friends that I trust to talk with due to trust issues so I’m turning to you. How do I ask for a hair cut in this situation? Thank you. – Anonymous

This is a pretty tough situation; reminds me of how my parents were when I first got my hair cut super short. As for what to do, it all depends how much you want that haircut. Do you have any money of your own? If you do, it would be in your best interest to go out and get it cut by a barber. She will likely throw a fit again the next time she sees you but what’s done is done – she can’t make the hair magically grow back. It may take her a very long time to get with the program, maybe never, but YOU need to do what will make YOU the most comfortable and not your mother. Good luck!

Hi Gabriel,

I came out a out two years ago and my parents told me I was just following a trend and they were shoving me back into the closet to prevent me from losing good opportunities. I suffered a lot because of it and have been looking forward to university because of it. However, recently, I was yelled at because my mom could sense I have some resentment because of the fact that I wasn’t allowed to be trans and she doesn’t think that I am trans. And she told me if I wanna screw up my life then I can do so after college. This scared me because I moved to NYC so I could be myself and transition but she scared me and now I’m too afraid to take the steps to transition, change my name, get surgery, etc. I feel like out of kindness I should wait to transition for my parents and my younger sister but I also know that I’ve been waiting to be myself forever to do this. Can u give me some advice or some guidance on how to figure out what to do? – Anonymous

Are they paying for your college education? If so, you have to tread very carefully because one wrong step can result you in being unable to finish college because your parents are withholding funds. If anything, you can maybe go to a informed consent clinic in New York City (there’s Callen-Lorde and APICHA) and go on hormones but on a low dose so that changes happen slow but they will be happening and you will feel more comfortable in your body. It may not be much but it will be a start! You can get your hair styled if you haven’t already, start dressing more of the way you want, present yourself with your preferred name and pronouns. I know that more professors in college are starting to ask in the beginning of the semester what you PREFERRED to be called even though you might not have legally changed the name. Continue reading “Ask Gabriel: Haircuts and Identities”

Ask Gabriel: Losing Weight and Children

Ask Gabriel: Losing Weight and Children

Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.

Hi Gabriel,

How did you lose weight? I’m so round and have huge hips and I want to know how to get rid of that? – Anonymous

Losing weight is more about what you eat than what you do at the gym though cardio exercise will certainly accelerate the results. However, I cannot stress enough the importance of cleaning up your diet because that is what will make or break your results. To lose weight, the calories you consume must be lower than the calories you use.Β  Also, you cannot spot reduce certain parts of your body – you have to aim for lowering your bodyfat percentarge all over. If you have wide hipbones, however, no amount of dieting and exercise can changeΒ  that.

I would highly recommend Bodybuilding.com to get you started and using MyFitnessPal for tracking your food and calories consumed daily. Even starting a daily food journal can help!

Please keep in mind that this is a lifestyle change and not something you can do for a few weeks and then go back to your old eating habits because then your body will go back to the way it was. You visualize your goal, make a diet/workout plan and STICK WITH IT! I wish you the best of luck in your journey. Continue reading “Ask Gabriel: Losing Weight and Children”