Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.
How did you lose weight? I’m so round and have huge hips and I want to know how to get rid of that? – Anonymous
Losing weight is more about what you eat than what you do at the gym though cardio exercise will certainly accelerate the results. However, I cannot stress enough the importance of cleaning up your diet because that is what will make or break your results. To lose weight, the calories you consume must be lower than the calories you use. Also, you cannot spot reduce certain parts of your body – you have to aim for lowering your bodyfat percentarge all over. If you have wide hipbones, however, no amount of dieting and exercise can change that.
Please keep in mind that this is a lifestyle change and not something you can do for a few weeks and then go back to your old eating habits because then your body will go back to the way it was. You visualize your goal, make a diet/workout plan and STICK WITH IT! I wish you the best of luck in your journey.
Is it possible for transgender men to have a baby like an original man and if not what are the options? You inspired me really. – Duna
At this time, transgender men cannot produce a child in the way a cisgender man can. However, transgender men can have children through other means such as adoption, bearing the child before they start testosterone (or stopping testosterone well before becoming pregnant) or have their eggs frozen in the event they may want children in the future.
Do you think it’s a good idea to come out? I mean it’s my senior year, so there’s already a lot of stress there. Add the fact that my family is extremely against the LGBTQ community. – Anonymous
That would depend on a number of factors. Do you have a backup plan if things go south? Are you planning to move out right after graduation? Are you going to college and, if so, are you depending on your family to pay for tuition? You need to ask yourself these questions and determine whether it’s a good idea to come out and how important it is for you to do so. You are at that critical period in your life where you are transitioning to adulthood, (most likely) have a career you want a to pursue and live the life you want. And if you depend on them for tuition, coming out can cause them to withdraw financial support for college and you’ll be out on your own.
From the little information you have given me, I would strongly suggest not doing so. Proceed with caution, friend.
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