Ask Gabriel is an advice column series where you can get your questions answered about being transgender, coming out, changing your name, hormones, sexuality, representation, dating, etc. These are questions that have been submitted to me by transgender and nonbinary people! You can read my last column here.
I’m just under 6 months on T and I’m wondering if there’s a recommended date or wait time for starting minoxidil? – Sydney
As someone who is currently using minoxidil, I personally wouldn’t recommend starting minoxidil for at least a year on testosterone. The reason for that is because facial hair usually doesn’t show up much in the first year (I actually got the most growth after that) and most of the growth you get while using minoxidil may just be testosterone doing its work. In other words, it’s too early! Also, facial hair is still dependent on genetics even when using products to stimulate facial hair. Minoxidil can only do so much – if there’s no hair follicles hidden under the skin to stimulate, it will have no effect.
Remember to read up on all its side effects before starting it!
If you went on hormones to look male but then go by non binary, what is the point? There isn’t nothing feminine about you, you look like a man to me. How would someone even know to call you they/them? – Derek
Gender expression does NOT equal gender identity, friend.
I look the way I WANT to look without having to assign myself into a box because all my life people would just throw labels at me like I was an inanimate object. Also, nonbinary people don’t look like anything but themselves. Regardless of what I am wearing, I go by they/them pronouns and people should respect them just like I respect their pronouns. Of course, I expect people in general to make mistakes but it shouldn’t be a problem once I correct them. It’s only a problem if they persist to misgender me without trying to correct themselves.
How did you get so many followers and to be so popular? 🙂 – Leo
Well, I wouldn’t call myself popular. You see, I started off with just documenting my transition on my Tumblr blog and YouTube, which people started to notice. There were many who even reached out to thank me for being visible because it was nice being able to see themselves in a transgender person that wasn’t white because that’s all they saw before they stumbled upon me. Eventually, I branched out into making a Facebook group for transmasculine and nonbinary people which grew to over 12,000 members. Then I started to post more on Instagram (my preferred choice for social media) and eventually people started to find me there too. It’s strange how things turned out but I’m glad it did.
I suppose the best answer I can give you is that being positive in my posts and sharing my knowledge to those who ask for it has resulted in people to follow me. It takes time but it’ll come to you in time as long as you don’t give up. 😀
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